Category Archives: living out loud

Oh Shift!

In coaching we talk about the amazing and powering moment when a we partner with a client to achieve a shift. A shift is simply helping an individual or organization move from one place or position to another. This can be emotional, thoughtful, spiritual and even physical.

I had such a shift this week while participating in one of my courses. I was the coachee being coached by one of my cohorts while another was the primary “observer” and the remainder of our cohorts also observed. Side note the three of us are, for real, a rabbi a non traditional pastor (me) and a denominational pastor. God is too funny.

The situation I wanted coaching on was the issue of calling. My rabbi coach was absolutely amazing and my pastor observer was equally amazing and both insightful.

My coach made a firm request that I process my thoughts out loud using whatever words I wanted without relentlessly editing myself.

The shift happened as I shared. I realizes that two scriptures have “haunted” me for at least three years: Isaiah 43.2 and Jeremiah 18. The first says God will be with us when we walk thru the fire and the flood the second is about the potter and the clay.

My emotional,spiritual and mental shift regarding call came as these two scriptures converged with the struggle I was having reconciling what I thought was my life call to what is now my life reality.

The Holy Spirit spoke thru a rabbi to show me that the fires of affliction I walked through my last two years as a pastor were the kiln He, Jesus, my master potter, was using to to recast and remake me into this new vessel: a coach.

My heart is overflowing with gratitude and hope.


SMC #8&9 Three minutes to make an impression


The last two days have been busy with business meetings and creative planning.  On Wednesday I interviewed a prospective Graphic and Marketing Specialist for this next phase of my business plan: branding and marketing myself and ReSet Enterprises.  The person I met with is a very creative, innovative thinker so I chose to dress creatively and I added that punch of red for power and confidence.  On Thursday I had two business meetings with prospective clients; the first an income generating client and the second an opportunity to serve and give back to our community through the not-for-profit arm of the business we are in the process of creating.

Think what you like, all the data and studies show that you get three minutes to make a first impression with someone.  You do get to decide how other’s will perceive you.

Therefor I chose the creative outfit for Wednesday’s meeting because I knew the person would connect better with me if I didn’t show up in a black pencil skirt, white button down and black pumps.  I also added that punch of energetic red because it is a confident and powerful color.  It’s why the men and women in the C-Suite wear red ties and pocket squares.  I chose more traditional business-casual on Thursday because of the nature of the two meetings.  My morning meeting was a follow-up with a client who is hiring me as a business coach so he has already chosen to trust the buttoned down business woman he first met and my afternoon was with the Director of a local not-for-profit.  So, I dressed accordingly, very business with the black slacks and white top but chose to soften the look with the green cardigan primarily because of the second meeting.  You don’t want to go into a meeting where you are offering to volunteer your services and expertise in any kind of intimidating or aggressive manner.  A soft, green, cashmere cardigan is open, inviting and welcoming.  No hard edges.

All three meetings were very successful.  Say what you want, it matters what you wear and how you present yourself.  I know, we all wish the world would like us for what’s on the inside.  The reality is, the outside package is the only thing others have to read as an indicator of what is on the inside.

People make a multitude of decisions about who you are, what you are about and if you are trustworthy within the first three minutes of meeting you.

Sorry for the poor photo quality. My photographer is traveling this week.

Wednesday: Polk-a-dot dress: a birthday gift from my friend Arlene (Loft), Red Belt: J. Crew, Red Pumps: Bandolino (an interesting fun-fact about these shoes: I was wearing them the day of our house fire, they are the only shoes that survived.)

Thursday: White top: Loft, Black slacks: J. Crew; Green Cardigan: Banana Republic, Black Booties: Calvin Klein

Creative marketing meeting.
Creative marketing meeting.

Business Meetings
Business Meetings